It's not just any boys though. One boy in particular, and depending on what day it is, possibly this boys older brother as well. We're not talking a kinder boy either. No, no. She's already showing her penchant for older boys. These lucky boys are older brothers of one of her good kinder friends. This kinder friend is also in Ruby's dance class, so, if she's lucky, she might get to see them a couple of times a week. If we are in the car and we see them she will always call out and wave. If, however, we see them a bit more personally, she all of a sudden goes a whole lot shyer. Now, when I say older, I don't mean by a couple of years. The main boy is 10, the other boy is 13!!
It's actually been going on for a little while. There was one particular instance at dancing when Ruby and her friend were in their class and Ruby waved to the brothers. The younger brother smiled and gave the peace sign back to her. I think this is when her heart melted. She's been doing the peace sign ever since.
Yesterday morning she was excited to tell me about her dream the night before.
R: "It was a really good one"
Me: "Oh yeah, what was it about?"
Me: "Oh yeah, and what about Will?" gulp
R: "I don't want to tell you"
Me: "It's OK, you can tell me"
Me: "It's OK, what happened in your dream?" It took her a few minutes to get up the courage.
R: "I gave him a kiss and a cuddle", she proclaimed proudly, but still with apprehension.
Me: "Oh, OK". I thought for a little bit and then replied "Can you show me what it was like?"
R: "Yes!" She walked up to me, swung her arms around my neck, squeezed, gave me a little peck on the cheek, and then stood back and grinned. It really was sweet.
I asked her late why she didn't want to tell me, whether she was shy or scared or embarrassed. She asked me what embarrassed meant. She then said she was scared that I would laugh at her. It made me think about this next stage of parenting and how important it is going to be to not judge them. To not laugh at them or tell them what they are thinking is silly. But rather to appreciate that how and what they are thinking is real to them, and that it's OK. And ultimately to show them, through actions and words, that as parents, we will always be there for them to share those feelings and experiences. I hope we are able to successfully do this.
(I asked Ruby if she wanted to draw a picture of her dream. This was her creation. It's for Will)
Have you encountered first crushes? How have you dealt with them? She's Five!!