Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Boys?? Hold Up, Sorry, What?!

It seems we have a first crush on our hands.  It was only not long ago she turned five, and now she's talking about boys while getting all giggly and coy.  She's FIVE.  Is this NORMAL??

It's not just any boys though.  One boy in particular, and depending on what day it is, possibly this boys older brother as well.  We're not talking a kinder boy either.  No, no.  She's already showing her penchant for older boys.  These lucky boys are older brothers of one of her good kinder friends.  This kinder friend is also in Ruby's dance class, so, if she's lucky, she might get to see them a couple of times a week.  If we are in the car and we see them she will always call out and wave.  If, however, we see them a bit more personally, she all of a sudden goes a whole lot shyer.  Now, when I say older, I don't mean by a couple of years.  The main boy is 10, the other boy is 13!!

It's actually been going on for a little while.  There was one particular instance at dancing when Ruby and her friend were in their class and Ruby waved to the brothers.  The younger brother smiled and gave the peace sign back to her. I think this is when her heart melted.  She's been doing the peace sign ever since.

Yesterday morning she was excited to tell me about her dream the night before.
R: "It was a really good one"
Me: "Oh yeah, what was it about?"
R: "Will!"
Me: "Oh yeah, and what about Will?" gulp
R: "I don't want to tell you"
Me: "It's OK, you can tell me" 
R: "Ummm"
Me: "It's OK, what happened in your dream?"  It took her a few minutes to get up the courage.
R: "I gave him a kiss and a cuddle", she proclaimed proudly, but still with apprehension.
Me: "Oh, OK".  I thought for a little bit and then replied "Can you show me what it was like?"
R: "Yes!"  She walked up to me, swung her arms around my neck, squeezed, gave me a little peck on the cheek, and then stood back and grinned.  It really was sweet.

I asked her late why she didn't want to tell me, whether she was shy or scared or embarrassed.  She asked me what embarrassed meant.  She then said she was scared that I would laugh at her.  It made me think about this next stage of parenting and how important it is going to be to not judge them.  To not laugh at them or tell them what they are thinking is silly.  But rather to appreciate that how and what they are thinking is real to them, and that it's OK.  And ultimately to show them, through actions and words, that as parents, we will always be there for them to share those feelings and experiences.  I hope we are able to successfully do this.

(I asked Ruby if she wanted to draw a picture of her dream. This was her creation.  It's for Will)

Have you encountered first crushes?  How have you dealt with them?  She's Five!!

Monday, November 26, 2012

Stills: A Weekly Collection

I'll be joining Em with a weekly collection of Stills.  Little snip-its of what we get up to during our weeks.

1. Spying on the neighbours
2. Collecting leaves
3. Perfect day for a bike ride
4. Painting with nature
5. Cheeky chooks
6. Painting the windows
7. "Cheeese"
8. Drawing the spiders we caught
9. Getting the lawns done.  One of my favourite jobs.  Something I inherited from my Dad
10. Raw brownies
11. Daddy tied my hair up
12. Afternoon naps
13. Sisterly cuddles
14. Three legged race action.  Photo by the Little Viking
15. Our sugar snap peas are flowering

See more weekly snip-its at The Beetle Shack.

Saturday, November 24, 2012

Red Is To Stop

Ruby was asking me yesterday how people get different coloured hair.  I told her they dye it.
She quickly turned to me with gaping mouth and big eyes.  I then had to explain about hair dye, and it wasn't die, as in dead!

I said to her I hoped she never wanted her to dye her hair, as she has the most beautiful colour hair.

Her response, with the most amount of five year old attitude you can add:

"I don't want red hair.  Red is to stop and I don't want to stop.  I want green hair, because green is to go, and I want to go!"

Yes Ruby.  Yes you do!

Friday, November 23, 2012

{This Moment}

{this moment} - A Friday ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.

We miss you Aunty.
Linking Up with SouleMama

Extra Cuddles

The last couple of days I've done something that I haven't done in a very long time.

Ruby has kinder on Thursdays.  Pick up time is 11:45.  Not a great time for a toddler who has been a little poorly and needs a decent sleep.  I didn't want to put her to bed an hour before we left.  So instead I had to deal with the overtired, unhappy toddler on the way to, during, and on the way home from pick up.  All she wanted was her bed.  

I know if I just put her in her cot she would have been happy and gone to sleep right away.  She's always been a lover of her bed.  A little story and then straight to her cot, she doesn't really like to muck around long for too many cuddles.  But yesterday I thought she could do with a little bit more love.  I took her to her room, sat with her on the chair in her room, sung a song, hummed a tune, and let her fall asleep in my arms.

We were both content.  I watched her as she drifted off. Eyes closing slowly I listened to her slowing snuffly breath.  Watched as her breath moved her.  I sat for as long as I could before I had to put her down and deal with the raising noise levels on the other side of the wall.

I couldn't help feel a little sad that she is already 20 months, and these sorts of cuddles don't get to happen that often.  I've had many people say to me it's good to have children close together "To get it out of the way".  I personally don't like hearing that.  I wonder if they themselves have children this close together (each 21 months apart).  Although I wouldn't change anything, I do feel like Mila and Jenson, and myself, have been a bit cheated of time with each other   I've heard people say "But they don't know any better", which is true.  But I know better.

I relished these cuddles yesterday.  So after our great morning with friends at a park this morning, we did it again.

When is your favourite time for cuddles?

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Snap It {Bling}

...Of the Christmas kind.

Not my snaps, but totally my inspiration.

It's going to all be about branches, lights, stars and jars.

I see a few nature walks in our near future.

For more Christmas Inspiration, check out a couple of my favourite boards on Pinterest

A Merry Mishap (so much to love!)
Wee Birdy

What's your Christmas inspiration this year?

See more Bling at Sarah's

Monday, November 19, 2012

Through His Lens

An afternoon of bubbles.  

While Aunty Ness and Ruby played, Jenson and I snapped

Through my lens...


And through his...



Linking up with Lou for Point and Shoot.
Technically this was not on the weekend, but last week went so fast, it felt like only a weekend.