Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Snap It {Sky}

Johnny will be in the sky this evening.


On his way to Germany for two weeks.

Apart from the help of my mother in law for a couple of days here and there, I'll be doing this gig solo.

Travel safe Johnny, and have fun.  I'll hopefully have your runners' ready for you on your return so you can work off those German beer's. 

We love you and miss you already.  xoxo



Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Colour and Compliments


I wore some colour today.

I felt good as Johnny paid me some compliments this morning.

Until I realised the compliment was referring to the fact that I was wearing his favourite footy teams colours.

Hmph!

How often do you get compliments from your loved ones?

Friday, February 24, 2012

Grateful for Bloggers and Their Great Tastes

Firstly, I must say, to all the other bloggers who have joined in with 52 weeks of Grateful, sorry, I didn't realise there was a theme, and secondly, I thought the theme for this week was food.  It seems I am two weeks late.  Johnny always reminds me I was late for our first date, some things never change.

Anywho, I'm goint to continue with my Grateful post dedicated to food, and this week I'm grateful to my favourite bloggers and the way that they share some absolutely fabulous recipes.  I mentioned before that this is one of the best things about blogging, and nearly every other day there is another drool worthy recipe to try out.

One of my favourite blogs is Lemon Rhodes.  Not only does Jody have two adorable children and the cutest puppy ever, but she also has some awesome recipes.

If you haven't already, you should check out Lemon Rhodes.  I can certainly vouch for her Ice-Cream Cake, Sausage Rolls, White Chocolate and Orange Muffins, and the Chocolate Gingerbread, which we made today.










I know there are many great bloggers with some fantastic recipes.  Who is your favourite?  Include a link if you'd like so I can have a look too.

Where else do you go for cooking inspiration?

Linking up with more Gratefuls

{This Moment}

{this moment} - A Friday ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.

Linking Up with SouleMama
 
 

Saturday, February 18, 2012

{This Moment}

{this moment} - A Friday ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.

Linking Up with SouleMama


Friday, February 17, 2012

52 Weeks Of Grateful: A Letter To My Dad

My Dad's on facebook. It's pretty funny really, because I don't even know if he knows how to turn a computer on.  But his beautiful wife set him up with his own facebook account, so he could keep in touch with all of his family and friends, some of which he has only just been reaquainted with.  So it's actually pretty cool.

We used to write letters to each other.  My sister and I would often get home from school to find a little letter on our pillow, sometimes with a little chocolate.  On facebook the other day, Dad said he still had them all and that he treasures them, and had only just looked at them a few days before.  I LOVE that!

So now, probably almost 20 years later, here is another one to add to your collection Dad.



  
Dear Dad

Thank You!

You have been such a massive influence on my life.  The person I have become is largely because of you.

Thank you for always being so positive.  I can honestly say that I don't remember any complaints, or negativity, or seeing any signs of hardship by our situation.  You've taught me that whatever situation we are faced with, we face it with poise and we get on with it.

Thank you for the values that you instilled in me, and the rest of our family.  These values I carry with me to this day.  Sometimes I forget them, as I'm sure we all do, but know that they are very important to me.  These values, especially around the family unit is what I live for, daily, and are what I am striving to achieve.  If I can raise my own family with the same values as what you have taught, I know I have succeeded as your daughter.

Thank you for teaching me right from wrong.  But more importantly, thank you for trusting me to take my own path, to make my own mistakes, and to learn from them.  I'm still making mistakes, and learning from them, but I'm on the right path Dad.  My path is a good one.

Thank you for always supporting my decisions.  I chose good Dad.  My dream to have the father of my own children, as good as the father you were to me, is now my reality.  I know you're proud of us.  Know that I am very well looked after here.  I have the support that I could not ask any more from.  I am truly blessed.

Thank you for always giving me shoulder massages, he he :-).  You'd always groan and grumble and say "hurry up then", but you would never say no.  Oh how I love you for that!

I have such fond memories of my childhood.  We didn't have much, but we didn't need much, because we had eachother.  I think of all of the times we shared as a family; playing games, singing songs, fighting, camping, cooking, prayers.  I could not, would not ask for anything more.

The love you showed us, the love you showed me, was incredible.  As a parent now myself, I am in awe of your principles, and I hope my own, reflect yours.  At times you were a man of few words, but that just made it all the more powerful when you did have something important to say.  I listened at those moments.  I hope you know how much I love and respect you for all that you have done and the man that you are.  You are an example in humility.

I am truly blessed to have you as my father.  Perhaps I knew how awesome you were and that's why I chose you.  Either way, I am eternally grateful that you are my Dad.

I love you Dad, and I will always believe that families can be together forever.

Your girl

Milina xxx



Linking up with more Gratefuls via Maxabella Loves



Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Tag - You're it

I was tagged in a blogger tag game thingy by the lovely Lauren at Sunshine and Green Tea.  It was a little bit exciting for me!  A bit of fun, and a bit of learning, meeting and greeting along the way.  Thanks Lauren!
 
 
 
Here goes:
 
Describe yourself in seven words
: Short, funny, independant, moody, determined, wannabe-runner, kind
 
What keeps you up at night?
: Any one of the Littles.  Most nights we get a visitor in our bed, but we've recently tried putting a stop to that.  Now he comes in once, we take him back to his bed and then he goes to sleep with Ruby.
: Tonight the heat will probably keep me up, I think it's still about 30 degrees.
: Sometimes it's all the stuff I have to get done.  The other night it was thinking about Mila and how when she starts climbing we are going to have to watch her very closely so she doesn't climb up and over the couch and fall onto our concrete floors!  Makes me feel a bit ill thinking about that.
 
Who would you like to be?
: The best ME I can be. 
: The strong me
: The focused me
: The determined and passionate me
: The runner
: The calm and patient me
: The successful me 
: The Mother and wife I have always dreamed of being.
 
What are you wearing right now?
: A sun dress

What scares you?
: My children being sick and there being nothing I can do for them. 
: The thought of loss. 
: Big hairy spiders in my kitchen

What are the best and worst things about blogging?
Best: 
: There are a lot of bests.  First and foremost, it has achieved what it was set up for in the first place - to keep connected to my family and friends that I am so far away from.  Your comments and messages through facebook or on the blog make my day and I appreciate them more than you can imagine.  So thank you for commenting, but even if you don't comment, thank you for reading!
Documenting my day to day happenings has made me look at things in different lights and reflect on things that i may not have had the time to reflect on.  It's also made me take a lot more photo's and I've captured lot more moments than I had been. 
It's also some time for Me!
Then there is this blogging community that is just so welcoming, inspiring, encouraging and supportive.  This group of mothers who you can relate to, "chat" to, and although you've never actually met, you feel like you've known them for a long time.  Although I don't always or often comment ladies, I am reading, taking inspiration and relating
There are so many bloggers who I get inspiration from daily.  Inspiration that I never would have imagined.  From decorating, to fashion, to words, to pictures, to party ideas (hello rainbow party for Mila!), to music, to crafty stuff, to arty stuff, to kids play ideas, to home organisation.  I am all the more armed for being a Mum at home thanks to the daily inspiration
And the recipes! So many amazeballs recipes!  Honestly, who needs cookbooks when you've got blogs.
 
Worst:
: It's time consuming.  It takes me ages to do one post.  This has already taken me about 50 minutes! (I've come back to say this took an hour and a half!)
: It's very distracting!  I have to control myself from checking my dashboard
: There can be a little bit of comparing going on, or maybe thats just me?

The goods by far outweigh the bads, and if you've ever thought about starting a blog I would say DO IT!!  Yes it's scary at first and its sometimes hard to push that Publish button, but it is so worth it!

What was the last website you visited?
The Little Big Company, sorting out some party supplies *cough(and then fb)
 
What is one thing you would like to change about yourself?
That I had 20/20 vision

Slankets - yes or no?
I'm guessing that's those snuggies type things, No!

Tell us something about the person who tagged you
I "met" Lauren and came to her blog through instagram.  Although I'm still new to her, I can tell that she is witty, so caring and kind and pretty handy in the kitchen.  She's a wonderful mumma with three very beautiful daughters, and I look forward to getting to know her better.
Now the fun part continues. I get to tag five bloggers so they can now share ten things about themselves.*
Alisha at Beautiful Life
Tamsyn at Max and Me
Megs at Glamourhood
Erin at Eat Play Bond
 

Snap it { Yum }

I love watching littlies eat, and this girl has got a whole lotta Yum going on herself!





snapping it with Sarah Go and see some more Yum's over there.

Monday, February 13, 2012

Crayon Art...Revisited

Remember when I made this for The Little Vikings Christmas Present?  Well, we had a little incident yesterday.



Ruby has made friends with one of the neighbourhood girls who is 9.  They ride their bikes and scooters around and like to have a chat.  Ruby does most of the talking.

Yesterday Ruby invited her friend in to play.  They were playing in Jenson's room when Johnny went to check on them.  It seems that the piece was taken down, picked at, drawn on, then put back up again.

Now, I know my two had a major part to play, apparently Jenson asked the 9 year old to take the picture down, but should a 9 year old know better to take something off a wall, draw on it, and then replace it?  I expected Ruby to know better, but can understand her forgetting in the excitement of having a friend around. 

I wouldn't know about 9 year olds though. What do you think?

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Not So Quiet Time

When "Quiet Time" lasts as long as it takes to skull a Milo, and an afternoon sleep is a distant memory, there's a couple more hours of the day to fill.

Today we used some of that time to wash the car.




  Which then turned into a little water fight


Which then turned into washing Remi



We had meltdowns caused by getting wet, not being able to work the hose, not being able to put gloves on, the hose being broken and subsequently not being able to use the hose.  Oh, the drama that my Little Red plays out.  Thankfully I've been in a better place of late and was able to cope with it all.

Happy kids (for the most part), Happy Mummy, clean car.  win, win, win!


Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Valentines Day

Johnny and I are not really big into the Valentines Day thing.  Apart from our very first valentines when we watched Notting Hill and Love Actually back to back while guzzling sipping Veuve Cliquot (yes, really!), our Valentines have been somewhat less romantic.

But something like this might be nice in his lunch box with some sweet treats, perhaps some rocky road.

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See more lovely valentines ideas like this here.  Julia at Kuku Couture Invitations has some great printables.

NB:  Johnny only reads my blog if I ask him to read something in particular, so I doubt he will see this.  But Johnny, just in case you have become bored with your SuperTeam or Dream Coach or whatever it is, and you've read this post, you know that I'm doing something for you, so some Dairy Milk and a foot rub will do just nicely thanks!  Love you xx

Do you do Valentines?  I know one special family that have more than just Valentines to celebrate then.

Monday, February 6, 2012

Not a bad start

This morning saw the first of the early morning starts with the kinder drop off.  It was also the first morning we needed to put Ruby's chart into play.



I'm happy to say that mostly everything went without a hitch.  I was very proud of Ruby.  Although she needed a few reminders along the way, she was well ready before I was.  We left a little later than I would like to, but kinder's only a five minute drive away and we got there in plenty of time for Ruby to show Jenson around, to make us some toast and pancakes in the play kitchen and to draw a picture before we waved goodbye.

The house has been very quiet this morning.  While Mila slept, Jenson and I had some one on one time that we very rarely get to have, and I managed to get a couple of chores done.

I must say, I quite liked being up with everyone ready for the day at that time in the morning.  Let's see if I have the energy to make it a habit!

Now the nerves of all getting out the door on time have turned to nerves of wondering how she is going, if she's making friends, does she know what to eat for morning tea and what to eat for lunch.  I know, I know, she'll be fine!!

Do you children starting kinder, preschool or school?  How have you mornings' gone?

Thursday, February 2, 2012

Comrades

Wow!

What else can I say?  Thank you so much for the supportive comments made here, on facebook and through texts regarding my last post, and also my blog.  I sincerely appreciate every word, every virtual hug, every pat on the back.  I feel so incredibly blessed to have the support that I have.  Not only from Johnny, who does more than I could ever expect, but also from you: family, old friends, new friends - Comrades.

Comradery is the spirit of friendship and community in a group, like the comradery of soldiers at war who keep each other upbeat despite the difficulty of their circumstances.
Who is a comrade? A close friend or a fellow soldier — in other words, someone who comes to mind when you say, "We're in this together." Comradery reflects that same spirit. Comradery is a feeling of trust, a bond created by a shared goal or experience — you don't have to be best friends with everyone in the group to know you have their support.
It's quite amazing and humbling to know that even though our lives are all as hectic and chaotic as they are, when we need it, we are comrades.

These past few weeks have seen a shift in attitudes and expectations, with a return of my mothering mojo.  Like my friend Grasshopper said,  I've consciously embraced the 'this is it, as good as it gets'.  I'm more at peace now with this mothering gig than I've ever been.  It's flippin hard, but I think it's hard, because I'm doing it right.  The "good as it gets" brings me more joy than anything else I have experienced and I wouldn't change a thing (although a full 8 hour sleep wouldn't go amiss!)

My beautiful cousin posted Don't Carpe Diem on facebook a couple of weeks ago.  It came at the perfect time for me.  I'm sharing in the hope that it may resonate with others too.

'Til next time, Comrades!

Milina

xoxo

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

A Confronting Question


Do you want to go on anti-depressants or would you like to see a counsellor?

December was a really tough month for me.  There have been times in the past 10 months or so that I've really felt like i haven't been able to cope, but December found me faced with severe anxiety, moodiness and anger.  This was not normal for me, I needed some help.

But this question?  I wasn't prepared for this question.  I'm just a frazzled mother with three children four and under.  I've got a lot on my plate and I need a few coping mechanisms.  Tell me to take 10 breaths, walk away, have a massage, whatever, but this question??  What the??

Six weeks and three counselling sessions later, the layers are peeling and I've come to many realisations.  Just a frazzled mother I am not.  A frazzled mother with internal pressures and whose ideals were so far from reality is closer to the mark.

You see, since the beginning of my adult life, I've had a clear picture of how I want my life to look.  With the exception of a career focus, (which has been put on hold as I have my children at home with me) mostly everything else is just how I pictured it.  My marriage, three children, even the house and our new town.  But what is missing from this picture (deluded picture I may add) is that being at home would be blissfully happy all of the time and that I could always be a calm and in control mother.  SNORT!!  The reality is so far from that.  It's like I entered this new world of parenthood with a map that I knew inside out and back to front.  But hold on, this place doesn't look like my map.  They don't even speak the same language here!

As parents we try to do what is right for our own families, we create our own family values, and to me it's important to live by them.  All I'm doing is trying live by my own family values, not anyone else's.  What I do for my family is purely so I can live by and up to my own values.  I'm not doing things for my family to make out that I am better than anyone else, or to prove something.  I'm doing these things because this is how I want my children to be raised, and this is the family life I want for us. 

Subconsciously, I was putting so much pressure on myself to be the happy, controlled mother that I had pictured myself being.  I was failing at living up to this ideal and I wasn't coping with the reality.  I was moody, angry, anxious, and worst of all, these negative emotions and energies were rippling out to the rest of my family.  Behaviours were being mirrored, and I was looking at a fast moving downward spiral.  Right now, I'm so grateful that I had the strength to ask for help.

All this pressure.  On myself!  And now that I realise where this is coming from I can let go a little.  I now know that I am responsible for the way I've been feeling, and therefore I can change it.  I've acknowledged that reality is not how I imagined it to be, and that's OK.  I'm learning to embrace this life of being a mother to three young children; the day to day mundane, but more importantly the small snippets of pure joy that make it worthwhile.

These are the moments of joy that I live for:










I've got a long way to go, the layers are still peeling and there is more to work through, but these realisations, in their very simplest form, have already had such a powerful impact.  I'll continue to strive to live by my family values, but know that it's OK to not love every single moment.  The pressure, the weight, has been lifted, and that makes me feel good.

So, what's been making you feel good lately?